Monday, July 9, 2012

Shhh! Don't Let Daddy See You!

I love it when my children obey. But, sometimes, and I try VERY hard NOT let them know this, I have to giggle when they disobey too!

Shawn has a rule--well, several to be exact, but only one that is important for now--and that is, "no running in the house." The reasons behind it are simple. People crash into other people. Things get knocked down. We have five acres outside where they can run freely. And so on ... and so on ...

The kids know the rule, have it memorized, and can recite it verbatim when called upon to do so OR when trying to get another sibling in trouble. Just, sometimes, they choose not to obey the rule. This was the case this afternoon.

Shawn was working on his resume (please pray he'll find work) on the computer in our bedroom upstairs. Down below, our three youngest girls were playing quietly. Maya, growing tired of their game, decided on a change of pace. "Let's play chase!" she announced. Then her voice dropped a notch as she added a word of caution, "But when you see Daddy, stop!"

I couldn't help but laugh silently, but then I wondered, "Do I try that with God?" Do I pretend to obey outwardly, while inwardly I rebel? Sometimes kids can provide a mirror to our own hearts.

I Understand a Little Better Now

I thought I understood.

I really did!

I thought I understood something of what orphans and foster children face.

The disruption,

having to start over again in a new environment,

feelings of loss...

I really thought I could understand

and empathize.

Until...


Last June, we packed up our house and temporarily put our belongings into storage.

Last July, we camped out in our school while we waited for our new house to become ready.


Last August, we buried my dad.



Last October, our housing plans fell through, we unpacked our storage unit, got rid of a bunch of things, repacked it into a POD and moved across the country.

We camped out in a 100-year-old rental home (owned by my sister and her husband) while it was being renovated. Three days after arriving I began teaching at a new school. (After 16 years of teaching in my own school, this was a bit challenging.)

This January, our POD arrived and we began the process of settling into our new home. Yaay!

This February, my uncle suddenly passed away.

This March, Billy moved in, bringing our at-home kid count to five and causing us to rearrange the bedroom situation.

I don't things started to feel "normal" for any of us until around May or June -- although, my girls still ask when we are going "home."

Through all of this--as each change occurred and I struggled to adapt--the thought kept occurring to me, "This is what life must be like for foster kids and orphans. Now I understand a little more."

But the difference is ...

I am 41!

I have a stable, long-term support group.

I am secure, knowing that I am loved by many.

I know this time of change is temporary and things will settle into routine again.

I have the tools to cope.

I have, to a large extent, control over my situation.

And so, even though I understand a little better now, I will never really know completely. My life story is so completely different from that lived by the orphan. My life has been sheltered and secure. I know who my parents are and was cared for by them. I never experienced abuse, abandonment, or neglect. I am blessed!

The very least I can do is share some of my blessings with a child who was not blessed in the same way.

I pray that God gives me many opportunities to do just that!

Sunday, May 13, 2012

To All the Moms

Happy Mother's Day to all you mothers I am honored to know and learn from... ...the wise grandmothers, who have learned to let go...
...the moms who are in the frenzied middle of raising their broods...
...the single moms, who carry twice the burden, but smile anyway...
...the new moms, who are basking in the glow of a new life...
...the expectant moms, who are giddy with anticipation...
...the moms who have lost a child, but will never forget...
...the foster moms, who bravely stand in the gap when a birth mother can't...
...the adoptive moms, who completely forget they didn't give birth to every child (even those of another race) in their home...
...the struggling moms who feel they have failed, but keep trying anyway out of love for their children...
...the moms who, out of supreme love, have given up a child for adoption, instead of aborting it...
...the moms of disabled kids, who push past the diagnoses because they want what's best for their child...
...the moms of kidnapped children, who wonder and wait and never give up hope...
...the moms of estranged kids, who pray tirelessly to bring their prodigal back home...
...the moms who are at rest but whose legacy lives on in the lives of the children they have raised...
God bless you all on this special day. Don't ever forget how important you are.
A well-known author once penned the following, "When the judgment shall sit, and the books shall be opened; when the "well done" of the great Judge is pronounced, and the crown of immortal glory is placed upon the brow of the victor, many will raise their crowns in sight of the assembled universe and, pointing to their mother, say, 'She made me all I am through the grace of God.'" Child Guidance, page 564.

Monday, April 30, 2012

New Horizons

It's that time of year again. Time to clean out the spare bedroom... Time to stock up the fridge... Time to dig out the Russian/English (or Latvian/English) dictionary... Time to host an Eastern European orphan for the summer! New Horizons has their new summer listing up. They need 120 host families to sign up before Friday, May 4. (Ahem! That's THIS Friday, May 4.) There are kids with scholarships. There are sibling groups. There are teens. There are sweet faces hoping for a chance to be a part of a normal family for one blissful summer vacation. Can you help? For more information, go here. I have one more request... If you do host an orphan this summer, would you please email me your experience. I'd love to share it here. Thanks!

Sunday, April 22, 2012

Forced to Bond

Bonding.

Great stuff.

I'm all for it.

One-on-one time spent with your kids...

Getting to know them better...

Listening to their dreams...

Running your fingers through their hair...

Combing out lice.

Yeah!

Soooo not fun.



Post script: We've found vinegar rinses to work really well at killing the eggs -- more natural too!

Moms

We don't have a TV, so I "miss out" on many things. This commercial you may have already seen. I just saw it for the first time. It's message? The days may be long and the work unending, but when it's all said and done, mothers are the trainers of champions.

Here's to all moms around the world and the often unnoticed work they do. Keep it up!

Tuesday, April 17, 2012

Hearing God's Voice

Many people believe that God is somewhere out there in that wide expanse of space. They may think He only watches us from a distance, as Bette Midler's 1990 hit "From a Distance" implies.

However, God wants more than that. He wants a close and personal relationship with each of us. He longs for us to talk to Him as often as we speak to those around us. He has great things in store for us, but we have to communicate with Him in order to know what it is.

So often we want to shoot off our laundry list of needs for Him to take care of for us. We don't take the time to listen to what He may want to tell us. We don't take the time to find out the plans He wishes to share with us.

I like the blog "A Place Called Simplicity" because the writer, Linny, is such a powerful woman of God. She is a homeschooling mom of eleven kids, yet she still takes MAKES the time to commune with her Heavenly Father on a daily basis. And, wow, has He led her down some incredible roads!

Recently, she wrote a series called "How to Hear God Speak." I read the complete series in one sitting and it really spoke to my heart. I have been praying and seeking God in a more real and powerful way since then. I really wish the same blessing for you.

Please take a moment to go here. Then click on her "Faith" page (up at the top of the "Home" page) and scroll down to the title "How to Hear God Speak." Your prayer life will be the better for it.

Blessings to you!

Friday, April 13, 2012

Read Between the Lines...

Somewhere in this great, big country a little girl's fears are masked by the make-up of a young woman.


Somewhere in this great, big country a young lady prepares to face the world alone.


Somewhere in this great, big country a foster child will become an adult and emancipate.


Somewhere in this great, big country a family is praying they will be able to intervene in time.


Somewhere in that great, big expanse of Heaven, our Heavenly Father holds the answer to how or if the paths of these individuals will intersect.


That's all I can say...


for now.

Tuesday, April 10, 2012

Lucky, 9-1-1, and God

Mom!! Dad!!! There's a FIRE on OUR property!!!

Saturdays, for us, are usually quiet, relaxing days. We go to church in the morning. We have a special lunch either at home or with family and/or friends. Sometimes all the church families enjoy a time of fellowship by eating together at the church. After lunch, we enjoy a nature walk, Bible-study game, or simply sit around singing praises to God together. Sometimes we visit and sing for those confined to convalescent hospitals or who can't leave their homes. All-in-all Saturdays are usually pretty relaxed, where the main focus is spending time with God and family, NOT crossing things off our to-do lists. We call these days, "Sabbath," as in a weekly time of rest and remembrance.

The key word is "usually."

This Saturday was a little different. There was noise. There were sirens. There was heart-pounding, adrenaline-rushing excitement in the air.

But first I must tell you about Lucky.

In January, Nikki turned 10. (I still can't believe it, but it's true.) We promised her a dog from the animal shelter, there are a surplus of stray animals in our little town. That was three months ago. This Friday, God took care of that problem for us when a stray black-and-white puppy showed up at our school.

Meet Lucky.



He's sweet, calm, obedient, patient with the kids, and as perfect a puppy as a family could ask for. He's also a flea-bitten and mangy, but we adore him!!!

On Saturday, I told the kids we would not be going to anyone’s house for lunch after church, even if invited. Instead, we would come straight home to spend time getting to know our new dog. Everyone agreed.

After lunch, the three younger girls headed outside while Shawn, Billy, Andie, and I talked and lingered over dessert. Suddenly, Nikki burst through the door shouting, “Fire! There’s a fire on our property!”

Shawn and Andie dashed outside to fill buckets and douse the flames creeping steadily towards our house. I called 9-1-1, then joined the bucket brigade. Smoke filled the air, making breathing difficult. Nikki, Alyssa, and Maya became increasingly concerned each time we disappeared into the haze to dump water on the flames. “Be careful!” they shouted, then cheered when we safely re-emerged.


Shortly before the fire fighters arrived I stopped to survey the scene. My gaze was directed toward flames inching nearer some kind of a meter by the house. “I should probably get those,” I mused.

Not surprisingly, the fire fighters were much more efficient at extinguishing the fire with their full-powered water hoses. The fire was put out quickly, leaving only blackened ground and charred tree trunks. While packing up their gear, one of the fire fighters shook his head and commented that we were lucky the fire didn’t get any closer to that gas meter on the hill.


Gas meter?!

Later that night I had a little difficulty falling asleep. Random thoughts, questions, and a multiplicity of scenarios tumbled through my head. Would God send us a mangy, stray dog just to protect our home from a fire He knew was coming our way? What would have happened if we had not come home that afternoon?

What would have happened if I had not obeyed the prompting to notice the flames nearing the gas line? What if the girls had not spotted the fire in time? What if...? What if…? What IF...?! And then God gently broke through my feverish thoughts and comforted me by reminding me of a quote from one of my favorite books, “There are no ‘what-ifs’ in God’s kingdom.” (The Hiding Place by Corrie ten Boom.)

Early the next morning I slipped out to where the fire had occurred. The smell of charcoal still hung heavy in the crisp morning air. Shafts of light cut through the pines, marking out dappled patterns across the blackened ground. Half stepping, half sliding down the incline, I stopped at the gas meter. I just had to see it all again. There, alongside the gas line, telltale black marks paralleled the gas meter, then curved around towards the front. The little hairs on the back of my neck stood up straight and I had the feeling I was standing on hallowed ground.





"The angel of the Lord encamps around those who fear Him, and he delivers them.” Psalm 34:7.